It’s been exactly one year since I began ~*official employment*~ and while I was writing a little bit about what I learned, I was bored. I think about work all day.
Instead, here are a few (slightly less related to work) items on my mind after living here more than a year.
Staying in touch with friends is hard. I’m listening to Mindy Kaling’s new book, Why Not Me, and there’s a beautiful chapter in it where she sums up all my feels about getting older and remaining in contact with best friends. In a particular chapter about weddings, Kaling writes, “The sad truth is that our “best friend” days are behind us.” I’m fortunate to have many wonderful humans in my life I call my best friends. Some might even say I have too many best friends. To that, I say, life’s a party, and it’s too short to leave people out of it. Friendships are treasures! And the truest friendships last forever. After living half of a country away from some of my favorite humans in the world, I’m thanking every star in the sky for the myriad of technology which makes home and some of my longest friendships feel a little less far away.
Be kind to yourself. Instagram is the best social media, if you ask me. I love seeing where other people have traveled, how far they’ve run and what strangers are reading (and eating!). But real-life can’t be summed up in a heavily edited, hand-selected image. I’m not going to cite every study about the negative effects of viewing other people’s lives on social media. It goes without saying that thinking everyone else has it made isn’t good for anyone. No one has everything figured out. On the days when I feel like everyone has everything together but me, I’m reminding myself of Amy Poehler’s wisdom, “Good for her. Not for me.”
Empathy is key. I’d like to think I’ve gotten a lot better about explaining my job. At its core, I help to make the internet (lol I accidentally wrote “world”) a better place. There is some really awful design in the wild. Side note: I will never understand how people look at Reddit all day. A large portion of my job is thinking about how people use the internet. What time do they log on? How big is their screen? Do they want to share something? Do they have a disability? How old are they? There are hundreds of factors that determine how someone finds and disseminates information, and the internet is a scary place. By observing trends and talking to users (and looking over shoulders on the metro), we have a better idea of just what to include to make the experience more enjoyable. A little empathy for both colleagues, and the people who log onto our site goes a very long way.
Visiting Notetoselfblog.com by the Creative Director at Ralph Lauren!
Listening to Downtown by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis
Dying to try Making cinnamon rolls! Tis the season for filling your apartment with all things fall, amiright!?
Proud of Lizzie Johnson – a best friend of mine, for sharing that she’s having a hard time in a city she fully expected would embrace her by now. Thanks for giving us all a little extra courage to speak up, Lizzie!